Pleasuring the Vulva & Vagina
Finally, let's talk about pleasure.
I feel like vaginal pleasure is talked about a lot, as it’s what’s portrayed the most in porn, with regards to penetration whether it’s fingering or toys or an actual penis. And yes, penetration is a way for a lot of people to feel pleasure and even orgasm, but it’s not for everyone. This is why I wanted to talk a little bit more about clitoral pleasure, and combining it with vaginal stimulation.
Clitoral Pleasure Techniques
There are so many things you can do with a clitoris. You can tease it, you can touch it, you can lick it, and maybe (with consent!!) lightly bite it even. There are a lot of fun & unique toys designed for internal clit stimulation too, my favourite one being Njoy’s “Pure Wand”.
The curved shape fits perfectly inside the contours of the body and creates very enjoyable pressure. Add that together with some fingering of the clit on the outside, and it can get quite explosive. I’ve had a few (happy) crying orgasms myself from this toy.
Another way to incorporate clit stimulation during vaginal sex is having yourself or your partner stimulate your clit from the outside while they’re inside you, whether it’s their penis or their fingers or their tongue. They could use their fingers, but they could also spice it up with a vibrator.
Speaking of vibrators, those are great to build up tension on your clit externally, and also to build up to an amazing orgasm!
If you want to try out a different way to masturbate with your clit, try masturbating on your stomach and grinding against a pillow or a toy. It feels a bit strange if you’ve never done that but it’s a good feeling!
Now that I’ve addressed clitoral pleasure, I think it makes sense to address the vagina too.
Whether you use fingers, dildos, or a tongue to penetrate the vagina, the feeling of fullness can be very enjoyable for some, especially if you use something long enough like the wand I mentioned to stimulate the inside of your clit too! However penetration is not the only thing you can do.
Getting eaten out is super enjoyable too. There are lots of ways to do it. Slowly and sensually can be very fun, with lots of teasing licks. You could also eat someone out extremely passionately, with fast movements and putting your face in there. It’s really about what the person likes, listening to what they say and watching for the cues of what their body responds to.
I hope you learned something new about your body or your partner’s body, and maybe picked up some tips for pleasing the vulva too ;)